{"id":185,"date":"2010-02-23T20:38:54","date_gmt":"2010-02-24T02:38:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/?p=185"},"modified":"2010-05-12T15:14:21","modified_gmt":"2010-05-12T21:14:21","slug":"vision-quest-chronicle-40-love-comittment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/?p=185","title":{"rendered":"Vision Quest Chronicle #40: Love & Comittment"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/a>\u00a0 \"\"<\/a><\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n

Can we have it all? Good work & good love\u2026or do we have to choose?<\/strong><\/p>\n

In the post #12: Lilian Part II-Loneliness Unmasked, I wondered\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201chow, if you are living your Vision (life\u2019s work) to its fullest, does a romantic relationship fit in there? How does one balance relationships with people with ones relationship with her Vision? I have also often wondered if the reason that I am not currently in a relationship is related to the fact that I may need to give so much of myself to my Vision. I wonder if my Higher Power or the Universe knows best and if that is why I don\u2019t have that romantic relationship right now. Maybe space is being made for me to do what I was meant to do.\u201d<\/p>\n

I ended this post acknowledging that more would be revealed, and it has. As Lilian (Burwell) told me on that visit, we do not know a thing until we live it. I have since spoken to other women who have told me of the challenges they face trying to balance career and family (especially children). I have wondered about that for me. While currently single and without children (save for my beagle Rex, who is easy as pie), I have tried to imagine how I will accomplish all my work Visions and realize my other Visions of marriage and family. Why does it seem so often that these Visions must compete? How will I be able to fit these pieces together and achieve some sort of balance? I am not the type to willingly give up anything that I desire.<\/p>\n

So\u2026the other day I looked up and found myself in love! Yes it came out of nowhere\u2026a very welcome surprise and a blessing to be sure. I have noticed since that occurrence many shifts in my thinking. The most current iteration of my life\u2019s Vision did not account for a relationship. I was just going to live my life, focus on manifesting my Visions and within the next two years have a child, whether single or not. I figured if I was to be married or something of that sort that would just have to happen, but I was not going to effort in that direction (love has to be more organic than that for me). So I wanted organic and that\u2019s what I got. Now I find myself thinking\u2026\u201dwait I need to probably make some adjustments in my plan (also not a strong suit for me). Relationships take time and energy. Living my Vision takes a lot of time and energy. I\u2019m scared\u2026what if I abandon or neglect my Vision because of my feelings for this man? What if he demands some of my time and energy that I had planned to devote to my Vision? Worse still, what if I get married and start a family and just forget about my Vision all together and then look up one day and have regret?\u201d No! (this is the part where I start to panic and want to run off and buy a farm on lots of land to raise my daughter and Rex and all the horses, and chickens and goats we plan to keep).<\/p>\n

Okay\u2026wait! STOP! That is not living in the present moment. In the present none of those fears are coming true. Why do I insist on doing this future thinking thing? In my heart of hearts I know that it will all work out, that my Higher Power will provide whatever I need to fulfill my purpose on earth. In the meantime I think I will just enjoy the intoxication of love<\/p>\n

Vision Quest Survey Report<\/a><\/strong>: as of today, 139 women have completed it! My Goal= 1000.<\/p>\n

(first posted 7.16.09)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 Can we have it all? Good work & good love\u2026or do we have to choose? In the post #12: Lilian Part II-Loneliness Unmasked, I wondered\u2026 \u201chow, if you are living your Vision (life\u2019s work) to its fullest, does a … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[132,4,29],"class_list":["post-185","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-success","tag-success-coaching","tag-vision-quest-survey"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/185","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=185"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/185\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":344,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/185\/revisions\/344"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=185"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=185"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=185"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}