{"id":2772,"date":"2016-11-14T19:22:44","date_gmt":"2016-11-15T01:22:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/?p=2772"},"modified":"2017-08-16T08:56:53","modified_gmt":"2017-08-16T14:56:53","slug":"coping-with-disappointment-and-loss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/?p=2772","title":{"rendered":"Coping with Disappointment, Loss and Hurt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4IuurhjJUkM?list=PLIX0qa3CazmYqffDvv1joUlFL5disOea5\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><br \/>\nIn light of our recent elections many Americans (my clients and myself included) have been processing our grief and disappointment and I want to offer something that may help folks\u00a0cope and even thrive through this time and beyond. While I have many political and socio-cultural opinions I am not an expert in those areas so I&#8217;ve decided to stay in my wheelhouse as I approach offering help to those around who may either be suffering or just challenged with coping with disappointment, loss and the resultant grief.<\/p>\n<p>As a psychologist, success coach and organizational consultant I favor simple and elegant solutions like the use of the &#8220;Serenity Prayer&#8221; and the exercise below. That being said these solutions are not necessarily &#8220;easy&#8221; real growth never is. So here goes&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>God\/Goddess (Higher Power), Grant me the <strong>SERENITY<\/strong> to <strong>ACCEPT<\/strong>\u00a0the things I can&#8217;t, the <strong>COURAGE<\/strong> to <strong>CHANGE<\/strong> the things I can and the <strong>WISDOM<\/strong> to know the difference.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>List the things you can&#8217;t change i.e. other&#8217;s attitudes or opinions, the outcome of elections and contests.<\/li>\n<li>List the things you can change or better yet DO i.e. change your attitude, volunteer, work for social justice, love someone, forgive, get to work!<\/li>\n<li><strong>DO<\/strong> the things you <strong>CAN<\/strong> (Maybe not all of them but you can do something)!<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-2777\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/to-do-list.jpg\" alt=\"to-do-list\" width=\"360\" height=\"392\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/to-do-list.jpg 360w, http:\/\/www.nicolecutts.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/to-do-list-276x300.jpg 276w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" \/><\/li>\n<li>Keep praying for acceptance, courage and wisdom to discern the difference between 1 and 2.<\/li>\n<li><strong>STOP<\/strong> wasting your energy complaining or just being mad. That leaches the energy you <strong>NEED<\/strong> to <strong>DO<\/strong> something and it helps no one. That being said you can benefit from speaking about how you feel but that is different than complaining.<\/li>\n<li>Take a look at my video above that may help too. Please note the definition of real success according to the mission of <a href=\"http:\/\/visionquestretreats.com\/about\/\"><strong>Vision Quest Retreats<\/strong><\/a> must include bringing something of value to the world and others. It does NOT mean success just for you so you can think you are great&#8230;LOL.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>I hope the above helped,<\/p>\n<p>Nicole<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In light of our recent elections many Americans (my clients and myself included) have been processing our grief and disappointment and I want to offer something that may help folks\u00a0cope and even thrive through this time and beyond. 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